Most of the work happens before the day.
Four conversations before your wedding day, and most of the work happens in them. Planning sessions and the full MC role are part of every wedding I take, so none of this is an upgrade.
How it runs
An intro call, an hour, before anything is signed
When your inquiry comes in you will get an email with details about me and a link to book this call. It is an hour, and it is not a sales pitch. We talk about your day and get to know each other, because the honest question at this stage is whether I am the right person for your wedding. That is a much better thing to work out on a call than three months into planning.
Planning starts a few months out, not the week you book
You are not going to hear from me every fortnight for a year. Once your date is held, the next stage waits until it is genuinely useful. Book eighteen months ahead if you like — the planning still happens when it should, which is close enough to the day that your answers have not changed.
Setting up the planning tool, an hour
We get you into Vibo, which is the tool I use to hold your music, your timeline and your key moments. This meeting is about making it easy rather than handing you homework. From here you can work on it whenever suits you, and it becomes the record we both work from — nothing depends on either of us remembering what was said on a call.
The full planning session, two hours
This is the long one, and it is where your day actually gets built. Timeline, music, the order of moments, who is being introduced and how, what you want and what you would rather avoid. Two hours sounds like a lot until you are in it. By the end of this meeting your wedding exists on paper.
A final check-in, and an honest one
Nominally this is to iron out last details and double-check what we have. In practice it usually turns into a stress check, because by that week most couples need one more than they need another timeline review. It is also the last time we speak before the day.
I arrive two and a half to three hours early
That is structural rather than a variable. Setup, testing and coordination with your venue are done long before your guests arrive, which is also why I end up functioning as a de facto coordinator at most weddings. If something shifts, it gets handled quietly instead of becoming yours to solve.
What we are actually building
As a wedding DJ you are handed the most important moment in someone’s life at the point they are living it. Not for ever — there will be children, and milestones that land just as hard — but right now, this is the one. That is the standard the whole process is held to: honour the day for what it is, build it out the way you want it, and never push you into something because it is what weddings are supposed to do.
The couples I do my best work with are the ones who want to put something into it. Not a bigger budget or a longer Pinterest board — just a genuine interest in shaping how the day feels rather than ordering it off a shelf. If you want to be involved in that, this process is built for you.
Almost all of it is negotiable, and more of it than most couples expect. The bouquet, the garter, parent dances, the cake cutting — any of those can move, change shape, or quietly not happen at all. Private cake cuttings are common in my weddings: no announcement, no song, the two of you just do it and the room carries on without ever being told.
What I do think about is which moments your guests are also there for. The first dance is the clearest one. It belongs to you, but they came to see it, and removing it altogether quietly takes something from them as well. That does not mean you have to stand alone in the middle of a floor while everyone watches.
I have a wedding coming up with a couple who would rather not be a spectacle. Their cake cutting is private. For the first dance, rather than cutting it, we are bringing every couple in the room out to dance alongside them. They still get their first dance, they are surrounded by their people instead of isolated under all eyes, and the floor is already full when the open dancing starts. That is the sort of thing worth talking through rather than answering yes or no.
By the time we meet in person, most couples feel less like clients and more like people I have known a while. That is not a technique. It is what four hours of talking about someone’s wedding does.
What this means for you
Four hours of planning, minimum
Planning runs on video, and that is not a compromise
You do not have to be organised
It starts with a conversation
Before a contract, before a deposit. Tell me your date and your venue and we will find out whether this is a good fit.